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Mi Marla, that's a great point about how memorial scierves are also a time for celebration, and fond, appreciative rememberances. I've never talked to a family member who thought their loved one wanted an exclusively sad, mournful service for them. Some well-chosen music, humor in the right measure, and vignettes that capture the personality of the deceased, are healing for everyone who attends the service. It goes a long way toward getting grief's journey off to a healthy start.